How to Move When You’re Grieving
It’s often the worst thing that can happen. A loved one passes, and every room in your home reminds you of him or her. You feel haunted. Sometimes, you just need to get out of the house you shared to get that fresh start you need to begin healing.
Where to Start?
This can be the most overwhelming aspect. Beginning can seem so difficult. You need to decide whether you want to sell your home or rent it out while you get into a clear headspace. It’s a good idea to get an agent to help out because you have enough on your mind. This person can run the show, so to speak, and allow you space to grieve. If you aren’t getting an agent, get a friend to sit down with you and help you make a countdown list of all you need to do. Once you have the schematics planned out, you can begin the process.
This is the time to tackle what you’re going to keep and what you won’t. Give yourself ample time to think things through. You may not want to get rid of anything, or you may think that having any reminder is too painful. If you aren’t ready to deal with the items, consider putting them in storage temporarily so you can truly give yourself the time you need. If you are ready to begin processing your loved one’s possessions, start small. Focus on one room, one drawer, or one dresser at a time. Make different piles, such as “Keep,” “Donate,” “Toss,” and “Undecided.” Before donating the items, you may want to allow friends and family of your loved one to pick things as mementos to help them with their own grief.
Once you have fully packed, you will need to transport your goods. If you can rent a truck and drive it yourself or have a friend help, you can move at your own pace. However, if you just don’t have the energy or emotional capacity to deal with any of that, you may want to hire movers to help you. Get referrals and have a few companies give you an evaluation in person. Make sure that the company you choose is properly insured and accredited, so you can trust that your belongings will be well taken care of.
You will need to clean your home once it’s been vacated, but finding the energy to do so may be hard. If you don’t think you can, or you don’t know if you can tolerate seeing the empty rooms, don’t hesitate to get a professional, one-time cleaning service. HomeAdvisor states that the average cost for a move-out or one-time house cleaning in Sacramento is $115-$240. For such a small sum, you may save yourself a good deal of anguish.
Chances are, you’re going to need to update various utilities and, at the least, the post office for where to direct your mail. Give yourself a couple weeks to do this before you move, as you will need to plan on when certain utilities need to be transferred or simply shut off. This includes cable, your internet provider, water, electricity, gas, trash removal, and anything in between. If you have any subscriptions, make sure you’ve updated them with your new address so you don’t miss out on any magazines or deliveries.
At the end of the day, this is going to be a hard transition. Whether you’re choosing to rent out your home or you’re selling it, moving, while difficult, may just be the break you need to begin your journey toward healing. After all, what better way to get a fresh start than with a fresh home with new memories awaiting you?
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